just got asked my pronouns at a trucker-ass gas station by a dude in a ford truck baseball cap
it's the future yall
@Kat A fantastic lesson in why we shouldn't judge on appearances~ Thank you for sharing this wholesomeness 💚
@Kat where was the gas station? you can’t just tell me about paradise and then give me no clues as to its location
@Kat The truckers are allies now.
@sydneyfalk @Kat @saper i think a gentle 'hey, just wanna get it right, what are you pronouns?' signals respect pretty well; the times i've gotten this disrespectfully was when someone just stared me down and said 'are you male or female??' in like kind of an accusatory way, which is a different question than 'how should i refer to you respectfully'.
I'm extremely avoidant and always looking for ways to avoid conflict, friction, or even really attention of any form. Speaking to a stranger's something of a crapshoot in my head.
I'm not sure what you're saying here, but I never said I thought it was disrespectful as phrased.
Hopefully that's clearer. ^_^
@sydneyfalk @Kat @saper oh, sure! i think i understood your intention from the beginning, i was just offering that i've experienced people asking me about gender rather than pronouns, and that this is more likely to be a disrespectful action than just politely asking about pronouns. i think the thing you described sounds just fine :)
@rabbithearth @sydneyfalk @saper asking someone their pronouns isn't disrespectful if you aren't doing it as a joke or something, at best it's a sign of respect and it'll make people happy, at worst it's still way better than misgendering someone and having them go "oh, that's okay" and then going home and feeling awful
@Kat hell yeah 🤘
@Kat This is, perhaps oddly, the most hope-inducing thing I've heard all week.
Thank you for sharing <3
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