just got asked my pronouns at a trucker-ass gas station by a dude in a ford truck baseball cap

it's the future yall

@Duende i love big rigs, big titty, and big respect for my fellow human beings

@Kat A fantastic lesson in why we shouldn't judge on appearances~ Thank you for sharing this wholesomeness πŸ’š

@witchfynder_finder @Kat This is cool, but I can't help but wonder...

"What are your pronouns, buddy?"
"Hey, guys! They is a real tough guy over here!"

Why would you use someone's pronouns if you're talking to them...

@m4iler @witchfynder_finder it was actually more along the lines of "is it sir or ma'am or something else" "oh, it's ma'am" "you got it ma'am" but that's clumsier to type
than "asked my pronouns" tbh

@Kat @witchfynder_finder Oh, in that case, I can understand that...

Damn, I'd feel awkward asking that, because I don't know what reaction that'd get.

I get misgendered a lot (long-haired fat guy), so I can see where this might be good to ask.

@Kat where was the gas station? you can’t just tell me about paradise and then give me no clues as to its location

@rabbithearth @saper @Kat

I suppose I'd personally preface it gently, with "If this is rude then I'm very sorry, but" and then apologize if the question was unwanted. But that's me. I'd still be asking the same exact question that way after the preface.

@sydneyfalk @rabbithearth @saper honestly it's a respectful question, just asking "hey friend, what's your pronouns" the same way you'd ask someone's favorite sports team is totally fine

@Kat @sydneyfalk @rabbithearth @saper I also think of asking for pronouns as coming from a place of respect; it's like how i'd ask someone their name if i want to address them respectfully instead of going "hey you"

@rabbithearth @Kat @saper

I don't consider it disrespectful but I could imagine some people may; some people are offended by the existence of trans people, and so it seemed worth prefacing to me. But I'm not most people. ^_^

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@Kat This is, perhaps oddly, the most hope-inducing thing I've heard all week.

Thank you for sharing <3

@Kat One of my oldest friends, who I briefly got back in touch with before fading back out, transitioned and started driving a truck and was cool about my enbyness.

@Kat More wholesomeness: my encouraging to and helping her learn to read when we were kids has snowballed into a desire to get a degree 20+ years later.

We drifted back apart because of political differences + not really having anything in common, but she's on a good track. All we had back then was the common experience of being so deep in the closet neither of us realized it in the same environment, and the shared experience/mutual support that goes with that.

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